It’s been a rough week over here, friends—it’s as if a little grey cloud kept hovering over me and raining when I could see the sunshine. As I wring myself out from the last rain shower, here are 10 things I need to remind myself in times like these; maybe they’ll be helpful for you too.
1. It’s okay to be afraid and uncertain of what comes next.
I’m a class-A planner who thrives on knowing what’s next and being several steps ahead of everyone else. But life doesn’t provide spoilers, and rarely does it take your plans into account. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid of what comes next, as long as you can accept what happens as it comes.
2. It’s okay to be sad.
For the most part, I’m a happy person. Not saying I radiate sunshine and rainbows, but you get the picture. The last few days, I’ve found myself in a terrible funk, accompanied by an overwhelming sense of sadness for which I constantly apologized. Stop saying sorry. Sadness is a part of life.
3. You don’t have to be put together and perfect all the time.
This doesn’t pertain looking put together, because God knows that’s never been my strong suit. I mean it in the most basic sense—looking happy, healthy, and like you have your life figured out. Sometimes you don’t. It’s not your job to put up appearances for others.
4. Saying no does not make you weak.
If doing something will compromise your integrity or pushes you to the limits of your sanity, please think of yourself and understand that no one expects you to be a “yes man/woman” all time.
5. It’s okay to ask for help.
This is a major struggle for me. I’m a very independent person, and I like to keep my personal issues to myself. But sometimes, the burden is too much for one person to bear. Ask for assistance when you need it. Most people are glad to help.
6. Telling the truth is a good thing. Repeat after me.
There is no merit in hiding parts of your past or present, or masking things that you really want. Speak your mind about what you feel and need, unapologetically.
7. Sometimes reality TV is the best medicine.
Okay, so this isn’t profound, but is a good reminder nonetheless. In the event that your grey cloud has become so heavy that it’s hard to see down the road, turn on an episode of Married at First Sight or Toddlers and Tiaras. I guarantee that you’ll feel better, at least momentarily.
8. Wine helps. So does exercise.
I swear that wine was invented to cure all of humanity’s ills. When I’m blue, nothing like a good glass of a red will do! (You like my rhyme? It’s okay, you can admit it). But on the healthier side, sometimes just going for a quick run or a calm yoga session instantly provides a mood boost.
9. Taking time for yourself is necessary.
When you’re living with and/or caring for other people, it can be hard to pull yourself out of the continual responsibility of making sure they’re okay. Please remember that your health, well-being, and happiness is just as important. Get a pedicure. Watch a movie. Eat healthily and take care of yourself. You matter.
10. It’s all going to be okay.
Life is hard and you’ll experience speed bumps along the way. It can always be worse, and I need to remember how grateful I am for my life—a loving husband, a house to call my own, food to eat, and a supportive family.
“Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be okay.”
Thanks for listening to me today. I think the rain might be letting up and I’m starting to see the sun.
Everyone experiences bad days/weeks/months—let me know how you cope with yours. Connect with me in the Comments section below, on my Facebook page, or on Twitter.
Writer, editor, and storyteller living in the Twin Cities.